30 Lessons: Idellete Vicker


Let us be women who Love.
Let us be women willing to lay down our sword words, our sharp looks, our ignorant silence and towering stance and fill the earth now with extravagant Love.
Let us be women who Love.
Let us be women who make room.
Let us be women who open our arms and invite others into an honest, spacious, glorious embrace.

Let us be women who carry each other.
Let us be women who give from what we have.
Let us be women who leap to do the difficult things, the unexpected things and the necessary things.
Let us be women who live for Peace.
Let us be women who breathe Hope.
Let us be women who create beauty.
Let us be women who Love.

Let us be a sanctuary where God may dwell.
Let us be a garden for tender souls.
Let us be a table where others may feast on the goodness of God.
Let us be a womb for Life to grow.
Let us be women who Love.

Let us rise to the questions of our time.
Let us speak to the injustices in our world.
Let us move the mountains of fear and intimidation.
Let us shout down the walls that separate and divide.
Let us fill the earth with the fragrance of Love.
Let us be women who Love.

Let us listen for those who have been silenced.
Let us honour those who have been devalued.
Let us say, Enough! with abuse, abandonment, diminishing and hiding.
Let us not rest until every person is free and equal.
Let us be women who Love.

Let us be women who are savvy, smart and wise.
Let us be women who shine with the light of God in us.
Let us be women who take courage and sing the song in our hearts.
Let us be women who say, Yes to the beautiful, unique purpose seeded in our souls.
Let us be women who call out the song in another’s heart.
Let us be women who teach our children to do the same.
Let us be women who Love.

Let us be women who Love, in spite of fear.
Let us be women who Love, in spite of our stories.
Let us be women who Love loudly, beautifully, Divinely.
Let us be women who Love.

-Idellete Vicker

Good, full days are things to be cherished. We pause in the moments of quiet and rest and think about how sweet it is to be still. It’s in these moments that we are reminded of God’s beauty. The beauty in sleeping late, reading books about theology, and listening to funny boys talk about magic chairs. We take in the richness of long conversations and spontaneous dinner dates. The day is a gift.

These are the kind of days I long for. I feel at peace, at home, with my people and with God. But on these days, I also tend to think more. My brain gets filled with good, thankful thoughts, and at the same time, some very sobering thoughts. In a long conversation with my good friend, Lyndsey, my brain filled with these complicated ideas. I felt so encouraged by our time together. We talked about fears for the future, our love for each other and good friendship, and about being women. And at the same time, I left feeling very aware of how rare these relationships are. As I’ve said before, it just seems like women struggle to live genuinely with each other.

Lyndsey is as genuine as they get. We can talk and cry and laugh together, all within a matter of 15 minutes. We give and take, share and listen. Our time together always reminds me that I do really have these kind of woman around me. Lyndsey is one of the best in that circle, but she is not the only one. I, today, am seeing the beauty of these women. They are diverse in many ways, but they are all women who love.

Over the last few months, I’ve been visiting shelovesmagazine.com because a few authors I love have mentioned it. Then I opened Jesus Feminist and the first pages held this poem from Idellete Vicker, the founder of shelovesmagazine.com. Idellete is a beautiful South African woman who loves justice, freedom, and sisterhood. This poem reflects her deep conviction and hope in the capacity for wholeness within all women. Let us be these kinds of women – the ones described here in her poem of challenge and encouragement.

As good as some days are, I want more days that allow me to become a woman of love. In the fullest sense. I’m printing this and placing it on the wall. Every day, regardless of circumstances, can be a day of beauty when we are abiding in Jesus. Let’s draw close to him and be women of His love.