30 Lessons from 30 Women: Flannery O'Connor

“But how [to] eliminate this picky fish bone kind of way I do things – I want so to love God all the way. At the same time I want all the things that seem opposed to it – I want to be a fine writer. Any success will tend to swell my head – unconsciously even. If I ever do get to be a fine writer, it will not be because I am a fine writer but because God has given me credit for a few of the things He kindly wrote for me.”

“Don’t ever let me think, dear God, that I was anything but the instrument for your story.”

- Flannery O’Connor, A Prayer Journal


A 20 year-old Flannery O’Connor wrote these words. She wrote with sincerity and earnest desire to know God. And tonight, I feel as if these words and their long-gone author have seen straight into my gut. If I could organize my thoughts perfectly, they would read like O’Connor’s.  

Reed gave me this prayer journal last Christmas. It was just what I needed to read as a difficult year ended and I was turning hopeful to a new one. Today, three days into this new year, I need these words again. Today has been a painfully insecure one. I’ve struggled to write all day, and as I searched my books and regular blogs for inspiration, I only became more discouraged. I look up to so many brilliant, accomplished writers, and today, I felt so far away from my desire to write. Can I really do this? Could I really write? I don’t mean just a blog for my mom and husband to read (which I appreciate, really). I mean, could I really write for a living and for a career?

Today, the answer’s definitely been “no”. You can’t, Jess. And to be honest, with insecurity and any false modesty aside, I have no idea if I could write professionally. I continue to be drawn to words – to stories and shared thoughts – but I have little idea of what it means to do this well.

Like O’Connor, I also wonder if writing is just my desire or if it’s God’s. Will this, does this, glorify him? I read through this prayer journal and realize how similar it looks to mine. I want to be in the center of God’s will. I want to know him deeply and make each day about bringing his Kingdom to earth.  At the same time, I want to communicate with his people and have relationship with them. I want to write of his goodness and grace. I want to point people to him through words! Can there be balance? Can I trust God with my writing and allow him to see through whatever is truly good for me and for his Kingdom?

Yes, the obvious answer is yes. We’ve seen it done plenty of times. I think I carry the same fear that O’Connor did, though. I fear my pride will get in the way of God’s plan. And yet, I’m encouraged by O’Connor’s thoughts about being his instrument. From this journal, I’ve learned that in all things, writing included, we must recognize how small of a part we play. Anything we gain, may it be gifts, success, or comfort, is truly a testament to God’s grace.


I don’t know if writing will ever be more than this for me. I hope it will take me to different places, but tonight, I’m trusting that this is enough. When, and if, God wants to do more, I’ll be grateful to be a part of that plan.